Six Steps to Fighting Failures
Some feedback I have received from people indict a need for more “how to fight failure” steps, so I wanted to give you six steps you can use starting today – if necessary.
First, let me remind you – some failures are going to happen. The key is to limit their consequences and impact using methods I discussed in previous articles. Failures are only events or happenings and have no bearing upon “who” you are. You are not the failure – the event was the failure. You are fine.
If you have difficulty understanding the impact or reasoning behind the second paragraph then you are a candidate for a good personal development seminar. Check out the Phoenix Seminar, especially since it is now online.
Okay, back to the six steps…
Six Steps to Fighting Failures
- Own it
If you are responsible for a failure, then own up to the failure. This is an act of self responsibility and self accountability. It was your position to make something happen correctly and when you fail there had to be a cause. This cause is not about others – it is about your knowing or understanding you could have made it a success, yet, something was missing or done incorrectly. Refer the seven things you learn from failure a few articles back for more clarity.
- If Fixable – Fix it
Again, self responsible people who own the problem take pride from fixing what is broke. In fact, this becomes a source for improving your self esteem when you learn you can take ownership in something and make it right.
- Prevent it
Planning and anticipation of contingencies is all about preventing failure from reoccurring. IF you keep on doing the same things and expect different results you are following the clinical definition of insanity! So stop what is not working and figure out what needs to be done and then do it. Problem solving can be fun. 🙂
- Learn from it
Learning from experiences is a key to your growth in the long term. I compare this to having a drop down window with a larger list of alternatives than average. This list comes from the learning’s you have experienced and cataloged over time. This larger list allows you to be more flexible in your choices which will be more aligned with the situation and thus a better choice can be made. Short lists are actually limiting and create problems or failure due to choices being out of alignment with the situation. Integrate what you learn from any failure and prepare for your future success.
- Put into Perspective
Too many people want to categorize things in a very black-white scenario and fail to put things into their proper perspective. Remember, there is always some gray areas in every situation. So think about what is actually going on and what factors are in play. Things will become much clearer and decisions will improve.
- Let it Go!
Hardest thing for low self-esteem people to do as they would prefer to continue to beat themselves down while remaining a victim to someone else who must be responsible. Wrong. If you did it, then own up to the mistake, fix it if you can, learn from it and then let it go. There is no sane reason to drag it around on your back everyday. That is a losers game. Winners own up, learn, fix what they can and then move on with their live.
The real key to fighting failure in the long run is directly related to your personal expectations. Do you expect to make mistakes and create failures? The winners in life focus upon challenges and opportunities. Then figure out how to make these happen using focus and self esteem (meaning sticking to the highest priorities no matter how many distractions are there.)
If you are struggling with repeated failures or low self esteem then you need to learn how to succeed in life today. You will thank yourself for a great decision later. Be sure to leave a comment below about this article.